We spend a lot of time talking about the tough stuff.  The relationships that are unhealthy, unsafe and even dangerous...but there are so many reasons to celebrate the good relationships in our lives. Whether you have found yourself in a cycle of abuse, or even witnessed this pattern as a child, the trauma can have lasting effects.  Sometimes it seems difficult to recognize the difference between healthy vs unhealthy.  Where do you draw the line?  

The Power & Control Wheel is a tool often used to help survivors become aware of the tactics the abuser uses to gain power and control.  But there is another wheel that doesn't get shown nearly enough, and that is the equality wheel.  Take a look - unless we understand what is healthy - we may not be able to recognize the red flags when it's not.
 

Equality Wheel 

Power and Control Wheel